|Do you remember 'Show and Tell?' The anticipation and excitement
you felt when you were five years old and it was your turn to
show your favorite possession and then tell about it?
When you join an online dating service, you have much the same
feeling of anticipation and excitement. The prospect of having
people approve of you and possibly accept you as someone they
want to have around them is exhilarating.
But how do you create a powerful and perfect online dating
profile? We have all heard that honesty is the best policy...It
is. Be honest. The person you are trying to attract will
eventually agree to meet you if you have written an eye catching
Statistics show that people can only keep up a fašade of playing
someone other than themselves for 3-6 months. Do you want to
find Mr./Mrs. Right only to lose him/her because you have become
Mr./Mrs. Wrong to them? Adhere to the honesty policy.
Be clever and funny, but be sincere. If you're funny, then show
it in your writing. Don't tell someone you're funny, e.g. "I'm
funny and have a great sense of humor." That won't make them a
Here is an example of something funny and clever. Football fans
will enjoy this one. (This is not for your profile, but used as
an example of funny lines I have used when talking to an
"If your partner is more concerned about that 3rd and 1 on
television, than the 4th and 23 in your own living room, then
you might be another statistic on the playing field of love.
Tell them to not try for a 58 yard field goal, go for six
Do you see what I'm writing about? Word pictures are very
powerful tools that help draw the reader in and help to reveal
who you are and what you are about.
Another important aspect of your online dating profile is you.
Show them a picture of you. A picture speaks volumes (as long as
the listener is tuned in) about who you are. If you say you are
sporty but have a picture of you sitting on a couch, what does
that say? Use a picture of you on a bike, in a race,
The eyes reveal a lot in a picture. If they sparkle with what's
called a "catch light," the viewer will be more drawn to you. (A
catch light is the little light that shows up on the pupil). If
your eyes look suave, the viewer will probably click you away.
Make sure to do a spelling and grammar check before you post to
an online dating site. Words that are spelt incorrectly and bad
punctuation can tune a lot of people out and then they will
click you off.
A few last words of advice: Forget about negativity in your
profile and don't talk about ex-relationships. That will give
the reader a sense that you are a serial dater and perhaps a
Avoid phrases like: "I don't play games."; "I love long walks on
the beach, candlelight dinners, and romantic nights by the
fire." You can show them that when you meet them.
Every person I have surveyed in the past has said that lines
such as the above are red flags and a sign that he/she is a
Online dating can be fun, exciting and successful, but be safe
and enjoy the process. When you finally connect with someone on
an online dating site, agree to meet at a coffee shop during the
day. To your success in every way, every day. Jaci Rae - "The
Rae of Hope" Copyright 2006
About the author:
Jaci Rae is the #1 Best Selling author of "Winning Points with
the Woman in Your Life One Touchdown at a Time" ISBN 0974622907
and "The Indie Guide To Music, Marketing and Money" ISBN
978-0-9746229-4-1 as well as the host of the Jaci Rae show. To
hear Jaci's popular show, with some of the top behind the scenes
as well as famous bands go to: www.jacirae.com click on the
weekly show link.
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