|How do you meet the woman or man in your life if you haven't
already done so? If you're tired of the same old dating scene,
meeting at a bar or conversing on the Internet, then I have a
few really great ideas that may help brighten your prospects.
If you don't already have a woman or a man in your life, it may
seem extraordinarily hard to meet the right person. Maybe you've
done the online dating scene and found that it isn't all that
it's hyped up to be. Often, the people involved (men and women)
don't measure up to their profiles or pictures. Because we have
a select group of friends, we tend to see the same people at all
the functions, B-B-Q's, parties and other events. Same faces
with the same stories that become all too familiar. So where do
you meet compatible and available singles?
Before I go any further, let me preface this by stating
something I am certain everyone has heard. Before you can find
the "right person," you must be the "right person." Sound
familiar? You can be given all the information you need to find
someone, but if you are the same person with the same values and
belief's about yourself you have always held, you will attract
the same. The law of attraction is: Similar kinds attract
similar kinds. So first you must get your own life together and
stop putting out the "I'm desperate to be in a relationship, and
if I just found one, I would calm down and be happy." You need
to calm down and be happy before you meet the right person or
you will end up in the same cycle you have always been, "with
the wrong person."
Enough of that...lets move onto the dating room. The dating room
is a place I define where someone can go in order to meet other
singles with similar interests. A good way to begin to find your
dating room is to think about things that interest you (maybe
you have always wanted to try skiing) or hobbies you already
have. Once you do this, you can find a club that caters to
people of that specific interest. All across America there are
car clubs, sports clubs, dance clubs, checkers clubs, chess
clubs, waterskiing clubs, snow clubs, dog clubs, you name it.
Once you have a few ideas written down, you can begin to gather
the necessary information about the clubs or events that occur
in your city or region. Look in your local newspaper for a
variety of interesting options, including neighborhood picnics,
fireman breakfasts, charity singles auctions (where dates with
local men and women are auctioned off for charity), travel
tours, public dances (ones not held in a bar or a pub, such as a
beginner's square dance), charity events or even a beginners
salsa dance night. For dances, make sure that it's not a
"partner necessary" event by calling ahead.
Other search options are to type in your Internet Browser:
www.citysearch.com to find out the local happenings in your
area. Another effective way to meet someone would be to
volunteer for a charity, such as the Special Olympics,
Make-A-Wish Foundation, United Way or UNICEF, to name a few.
It's important to participate with sincerity, but you may also
meet your soul mate there. You may find someone who will most
likely have the same philanthropic views that you do.
Finally, while I don't know anyone who has participated in the
Singles International Club, I have heard of it. Check out your
local chapter (search the Internet for specifics) as they hold
dances and picnics for singles to meet. They also have the
Singles Travel International Club. This is just a short list of
good meeting places to get the ball rolling. However, no matter
which place you choose to go, remember that in all of your
approaches its best not to try to be "suave" or "debonair." Be
yourself. Smile so that your eyes shine and be genuine. You will
go much further if you behave in a kind manner than if you put
on an act.
The point is to think outside the box. Here are a few more ideas
for you to grab onto: Go to a super market at a specified time
(I explain this technique in my book, Winning Points with the
Woman in Your Life One Touchdown at a Time, but it's too lengthy
to go over here), go to your local coffee shop, search your
local newspaper for social events such as holiday hay rides,
pancake breakfasts, library socials, etc.
A little side note for those of you who are bitterly shy: In a
football game, "freezing" occurs when a player holds the ball
for a long period of time without attempting to score points.
You can't "freeze" if you want to participate in the game of
love. You MUST forgo shyness. You will never make it onto the
playing field until you do. There is nothing anyone can say or
do, no magic potions or pills and no amount of coaching that
will do this for you. Practice in the mirror or on a friend to
help you overcome it. Join a theater group and get on stage.
That will throw you into the spotlight and may help you overcome
Many of you are reading this article because you have had the
same results in your dating experiences over and over again. How
can you change that pattern? It's a very easy solution, but one
that takes a lot of work when you have a pattern you have
engrained in your subconscious mind and that is: If you want the
same results, do the same things you have always done. If you
want different results, you must do something different!
Copyright 2006 Jaci Rae
About the author:
Jaci Rae is the #1 Best Selling author of "Winning Points with
the Woman in Your Life One Touchdown at a Time" ISBN 0974622907
and "The Indie Guide To Music, Marketing and Money" ISBN
978-0-9746229-4-1 as well as the host of the Jaci Rae show. To
hear Jaci's popular show, with some of the top behind the scenes
as well as famous bands go to: www.jacirae.com click on the
weekly show link.
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